tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post3945116802800087170..comments2023-11-02T11:57:59.927-04:00Comments on Straight Guise: Why Women Marry Men Who Have Sex With MenDr. Joe Korthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08656437986661601760noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-36843326077993978352007-09-21T14:55:00.000-04:002007-09-21T14:55:00.000-04:00It's important for me to clarify that while your f...It's important for me to clarify that while your focus in this post is women who consciously or unconsciously gravitate toward gays or MSM, for many it is as simple as falling in love.<BR/><BR/>When I was married, we had friendships with couples in which the guys had as many stereotypically gay traits as I did. So, my then-wife was one of many who chose guys whose relationship styles were more empathetic, collaborative, communicative, or creative than their dads' styles with their moms. The fact that I was wrestling with my attractions toward guys, and the other guys weren't, suggests that my wife's motivations weren't any different from the other wives.<BR/><BR/>Another circumstance I've run into is guys who were married for a decade or two before considering sex with men. Chronologically speaking, their wives didn't marry MSM; the guys didn't discover sex with men until 20 years later. For some it was the start of coming out as gay; others were straight or bi and said sex with guys was an uncomplicated and lower-guilt outlet than seeking extramarital sex with women after marital intimacy had faded or ended.<BR/><BR/>Historical trends certainly contributed to those late-comers' experiences. In the 60s, 70s, and even 80s, especially in small midwestern towns like the ones I grew up in, many folks were buffered from the existence of gay people and sexual options in a fashion that is no longer possible.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com