tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.comments2023-11-02T11:57:59.927-04:00Straight GuiseDr. Joe Korthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08656437986661601760noreply@blogger.comBlogger387125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-69339123871949518852016-01-20T10:36:52.335-05:002016-01-20T10:36:52.335-05:00I couldn't find it in the article thus the que...I couldn't find it in the article thus the question. It seems since I was basically a kid that straight guys are attracted to me. I can be near a construction site, if a guy has alone time, he flirts in very obvious way. Have caught straight guys behind me as I go into a store where you can see the glass like a mirror only to find my butt is being looked at. I'm often followed around in a store especially if I go to buy underwear or socks. These are straight guys. I know what gay guys or bi guys are like. Some of these guys are married with ring or ring is in pocket since finger shows light area. Most are 24-34 years old. That is the only thing I find in common is that age range. I'm not a fem type guy or Mr. Stud. I have been told I look very innocent and boyish but I don't know what that means or if that has anything to do with this. I do like straight guys but no clue what to do. Never had hookup and am a virgin in a given way intending to stay that way. In other words, not going to be a bottom bunk since goes against who I am. I'm not gay BTW. If I just knew why these guys like me who are usually very attractive it would help & then what should I do? What kind of sex if any do you think they might desire from me? I'd like to hang out, watch a good sci fi movie or play video game but doubt they want that. I admit it makes me feel safe for some reason that straight guys like me. Safety is a turn on for a given reason of past.<br /><br />Mark,<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02929849168832535850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-44305951228462946672015-11-11T21:36:13.851-05:002015-11-11T21:36:13.851-05:00Hello,
Please comment on the sex addict that has ...Hello,<br /><br />Please comment on the sex addict that has engaged in several transsexual MtoF oral sex - giving and receiving. His sexual attraction is still enduring - now 7 months into therapy. He stated that if an opportunity presented itself for a sexual encounter with a TS, he may engage. Does this mean he needs to explore his orientation? Can he be in a committed monogamous-heterosexual relationship with a woman? What does this sexual behavior with a feminized man mean?<br /><br />Please help,<br />D.MarieD. Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12839097984923523130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-25749196573762358782015-05-27T13:42:31.660-04:002015-05-27T13:42:31.660-04:00Straight man Happily married for 8 years, but has ...Straight man Happily married for 8 years, but has been having sex with men for the past year.I discovered craigslist offered a way to hook up with other guys and tried it out. I am a more submissive bottom and enjoy it tremendously. I cannot stop thinking about having sex with men in any way I can get it. I get instantly hard just the thought of another man being pleased by me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15610428040100717807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-59888767738012855012014-07-15T06:47:32.607-04:002014-07-15T06:47:32.607-04:00Riversong I just finished the book for women and h...Riversong I just finished the book for women and how to understand and react to this http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1442223251/ref=redir_mdp_mobile?camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=1442223251&linkCode=as2&linkId=LLWWSHSYNTWHB54M&redirect=true&ref_=as_li_tl&tag=joekortassoc-20Dr. Joe Korthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656437986661601760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-6470854164540994452014-07-15T03:35:11.474-04:002014-07-15T03:35:11.474-04:00I have recently discovered a video made by my part...I have recently discovered a video made by my partner of him giving fellatio to a dildo. He claims he is not gay and was just curious. I don't know how to react to this. Why didn't he tell me about this? The deception hurts. I found your articles to be helpful in understanding his behavior, but there is not much about how female partners should or shouldn't react. <br />I am having trouble moving forward. I wonder how I can ever satisfy him now. Any advice or other situations you can share to give me some sort of grounding? I'm baffled. riversong6295https://www.blogger.com/profile/02358562708009567878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-25199040870874156022014-07-15T03:25:44.064-04:002014-07-15T03:25:44.064-04:00I have recently found a video of my partner giving...I have recently found a video of my partner giving fellatio to a dildo. He claims he is not gay and that it was just a sexual curiosity. I have found your articles to be helpful in understanding his behavior, but am having trouble moving forward in the relationship. Why couldn't he tell me? The deception is difficult to bear. I wonder how I can ever be enough to satisfy him now. Do you have any advice on how to move forward when a female partner discovers this about her mate? Not much about how this affects relationships, especially from the female point of view. riversong6295https://www.blogger.com/profile/02358562708009567878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-51984314493831494182014-05-06T22:16:13.227-04:002014-05-06T22:16:13.227-04:00My wife was with a man once and that turned me on....My wife was with a man once and that turned me on. I had fantasies of being with the man while she watched. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00382537653716716870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-42264796924017264982014-02-21T15:29:59.033-05:002014-02-21T15:29:59.033-05:00I had 3-4 session with Joe and am currently in cou...I had 3-4 session with Joe and am currently in couples counseling with a really good sex therapist. Basically the woman I was living with and I had no sex for 6 years. But I was having an affair that long with another women and have seen a number of men for sex I found fantastic. So now we (my girlfriend and I) are starting to rekindle a sex life. And I have to say it's pretty good. But the questions remain: am I monogamous? Am I bisexual? In spite our renewed sex life I still long for the one or two men I loved being in bed with. Hendricks talks about closing exits - and I have done that - but not perfectly. I haven't slept with anyone else in the 4 months since my girlfriend discovered my 'other' life - the life having sex with men and women. I remember quitting smoking and that was EASY compared to giving up men. I think that ultimately I will have to leave and live alone to pursue the life I want. And yet that is no easy decision. We have a really nice life together and I have to figure out if giving that up is really a huge cop out or a huge embracing of who I am...Philip Levinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05597556472473314991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-57436910817806052302014-02-13T21:17:41.665-05:002014-02-13T21:17:41.665-05:00I think men will view naked men in the same way a ...I think men will view naked men in the same way a man will view another man's other possessions. I wish I had that guy's car, house, wife, body, or his cock. I won't watch porn containing naked women unless a man is involved.Brehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06175339279753405930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-9600258115836619682013-12-28T14:31:39.853-05:002013-12-28T14:31:39.853-05:00I get turned on by it too...i remember I stopped w...I get turned on by it too...i remember I stopped watching because I felt weird but couldn't help the aroused feeling it gave Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-35592516195694605452013-11-30T03:19:38.548-05:002013-11-30T03:19:38.548-05:00I see nothing wrong with straight men having sex w...I see nothing wrong with straight men having sex with gay men. The best oral sex I received came from a man. And I have been receiving oral sex from the same man for the past two years now. He doesn't label me at all. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-47822070118750427112013-10-11T10:28:01.588-04:002013-10-11T10:28:01.588-04:00I am an incest victim. My mother abused me from ag...I am an incest victim. My mother abused me from age 4 to 14. She would regularly fondle my genitals and make me erect. Ad then let me go with an erection. I hated her for it for many years. But now looking back I realize I did find her touch pleasurable. In fact, by playing with my genitals she did give me a number of dry orgasms. So, I no longer hate her. She did all this to me because my father could not satisfy her, so she was taking out her frustration on me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-47804704409773977272013-09-20T01:32:13.355-04:002013-09-20T01:32:13.355-04:00Is it gay if I like my girlfriend to use toys on m...Is it gay if I like my girlfriend to use toys on me when we are having sexAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-41184588308347669512013-08-30T19:49:59.116-04:002013-08-30T19:49:59.116-04:00Interesting post from a 2 years ago on 'www.en...Interesting post from a 2 years ago on 'www.enotalone.com'. Titled "in love with same sex friend but not gay". What are your thoughts?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-42322470426182599132013-08-22T14:02:28.650-04:002013-08-22T14:02:28.650-04:00Good post. I'm going through some of these iss...Good post. I'm going through some of these issues as well..<br /><br />Take a look at my web site ... <a href="http://www.neue-frage.de/index.php?title=Release_Your_All-natural_Radiance" rel="nofollow">skin care creams</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-6923942835792765712013-08-17T15:16:20.610-04:002013-08-17T15:16:20.610-04:00I am sometimes surprised at how naive and ignorant...I am sometimes surprised at how naive and ignorant some gay men can be when it comes to this. I've had my fair share of encounters with my straight friends. I dont understand it completely, but I've thought of it in terms of sexual behaviour and sexual identity. They might have had homoerotic encounters with me but they're still pretty much straight. Maybe cause I was the only close gay male friend that they could experiment with, I dont know. I prefer not to box people but rather try to understand the person as an individual.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-85107058534487515832013-08-17T15:05:01.698-04:002013-08-17T15:05:01.698-04:00^ you need to take people out of those boxes you p...^ you need to take people out of those boxes you put them in. Watching heterosexual porn would not make a homosexual any less homosexual. So why would it be different for heterosexuals? You seem to confuse sexual behaviour with sexual identity/orientation. The porn might be gay but that does not mean the viewer is.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-22503305800591807532013-08-17T14:48:04.981-04:002013-08-17T14:48:04.981-04:00As I see it, there is difference between sexual be...As I see it, there is difference between sexual behaviour and identity/orientation. People do love to box people into the labels of gay straight or bi. Nature doesn't deal in categories though.<br /><br />Many people are so closed-minded. I've always said if it wasnt for some of my straight friends I would not have had any homosexual encounters during the teens. And yes, they are pretty much straight. The act itself was homoerotic, ranging from mutual masturbation, kissing (not that much though) etc. Maybe it was just experimentation or maybe cause I don't need that anymore in my 20s, as it is much easier now to meet other gay men. <br /><br />I guess people are too social conditioned nowadays to think outside those 3 boxed that they tend to confuse sexual behaviour with the identity. During my teens and denial I kissed girls and even had really awkward sex with one, it was a heterosexual act and it didnt make me heterosexual. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-35509157067177718502013-08-06T11:42:51.638-04:002013-08-06T11:42:51.638-04:00So sex with someone is an orientation, not behavio...So sex with someone is an orientation, not behavior? So what do we say to pedophiles who give the same argument?<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02392042478596055172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-62964358535703478472013-08-02T15:32:49.290-04:002013-08-02T15:32:49.290-04:00One last thing: the postmodern, feminist view that...One last thing: the postmodern, feminist view that a woman is objectified because her body is physically desirable is the result of poor research on the part of social scientists. The argument for objectification is easily defeated once one considers that the desire to know someone as a person begins, more often than not, when one notices some particular physical attribute or other (not necessarily shoulders, breast, or butt) such that one party enjoys the attention obtain by its exhibition and the other enjoys providing the desired attention. Thus, no one is being objectified if their intent is the result of their act. That is to say, if you have sex in front of a camera and you enjoyed doing so and you were not coerced into participating, you are not being objectified. Should any doubt remain, visit one of the adult entertainment conventions and observe the vast number of people -male and female- seeking to meet their favorite porn star and observe the interaction, listen to the conversation.<br /><br />In summation, the pleasure of watching gay or bisexual porn -and I would like to challenge the women that read this article and this comment to watch bisexual porn; the women look like the women you'd see around town- is that the men exhibit a full range of emotions, they are attractive, masculine in appearance without the societal baggage implicit in the societal construct of masculinity. The sexual act is intense without being aggressive and not centered around one partner's or one gender's needs. The act is sensual as much as it is in lesbian porn but the duration of the average scene is noticeably shorter -these men are not concerned with unrealistic expectations of intercourse needing to last 30-40 minutes (that is intercourse, not foreplay) so as to satisfy a woman or with ejaculating unrealistic quantities for unrealistic distances as some sort of symbol of their masculinity. In short, they are the men, women would want to warm their bed if only there weren't so many rules!! Now, if we could stop thinking of the receptive partner as submissive and anal sex as dirty or painful, some real progress could be made.<br /><br />One final point to the men reading this: One undeniable attraction of gay porn to women is so simple as to be obvious: these men take care of themselves! Their skin is not that of an alligator, they make a point of eating healthy and staying fit, but most of all, they are NOT a fat man saying to a woman, already overwhelmed by societal pressure and aging, that they are fat and need to be in the shape they were in college to be attractive.<br /><br />Oops: forgot this: Ladies, if you want your man to watch gay or bisexual porn with you, ask yourself first how do you feel about two women enjoying themselves sexually. If you are unable to accept that act as beautiful at least, do not expect anything different from your man. <br /><br />To the lady whose boyfriend is handicapped: so, you see him as less of a man because he is handicapped so it is acceptable for him to enjoy other men but not if he were not handicapped? I can only say that I am saddened by that attitude because it shows just how far humanity still has to go.<br /><br />To the lady that has gotten her boyfriend to watch gay porn with her: Brava! Try bi too! Please, at least discuss the penetration. For the man, even a finger against the prostate can intensify the orgasm by orders of magnitude; imagine what the right strap on can do. For the women, I think the import of role reversal -aside from the intense emotions you WILL feel- is that the experience makes one fact undeniable: penetrating someone is hard work! I feel women become better and more understanding partners and enjoy sex more once they've had the experience. Although, you never have to worry about going a bit soft or damaging your penis from hitting the pubic bone by accident, I feel it is still an eye opening experience.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-37593497465174137862013-08-02T15:31:07.443-04:002013-08-02T15:31:07.443-04:00I have written about this here, as a reply to this...I have written about this here, as a reply to this article, in the hopes that many women will read this and think about some things: Clothes for women tend to reveal and enhance the female form whilst clothing for men, particularly the current fashion derivative of African American urban culture serves to hide and minimize. I am in great shape for my age and once was in the kind of shape that the men in these movies exhibit; however, I am not a tall man. How would women feel if they had to bind their breasts until nothing could be seen and wear voluminous clothing -unlike Victorian era clothing- intended to hide the female form and made them appear far shorter than they were in actuality? What if instead of high heels, women had to wear unglamorous and indelicate footwear? Ultimately, what if men felt that performing oral sex on women was unmanly? <br /><br />Some do you say? Judging by my friends, it is only the most religious (Jewish, in this case) that feel that the vulva is dirty and that performing oral sex on women is disgusting. Unscientific though it may be, most of the men I know, enjoy bringing their women to orgasm by oral stimulation and do not feel degraded by the act. Why would any woman feel degraded by giving pleasure to her man in a similar manner? Moreover, why should a man feel degraded for sharing such pleasure with another man?<br /><br />One last thing: the postmodern, feminist view that a woman is objectified because her body is physically desirable is the result of poor research on the part of social scientists. The argument for objectification is easily defeated once one considers that the desire to know someone as a person begins, more often than not, when one notices some particular physical attribute or other (not necessarily shoulders, breast, or butt) such that one party enjoys the attention obtain by its exhibition and the other enjoys providing the desired attention. Thus, no one is being objectified if their intent is the result of their act. That is to say, if you have sex in front of a camera and you enjoyed doing so and you were not coerced into participating, you are not being objectified. Should any doubt remain, visit one of the adult entertainment conventions and observe the vast number of people -male and female- seeking to meet their favorite porn star and observe the interaction, listen to the conversation.<br /><br />In summation, the pleasure of watching gay or bisexual porn -and I would like to challenge the women that read this article and this comment to watch bisexual porn; the women look like the women you'd see around town- is that the men exhibit a full range of emotions, they are attractive, masculine in appearance without the societal baggage implicit in the societal construct of masculinity. The sexual act is intense without being aggressive and not centered around one partner's or one gender's needs. The act is sensual as much as it is in lesbian porn but the duration of the average scene is noticeably shorter -these men are not concerned with unrealistic expectations of intercourse needing to last 30-40 minutes (that is intercourse, not foreplay) so as to satisfy a woman or with ejaculating unrealistic quantities for unrealistic distances as some sort of symbol of their masculinity. In short, they are the men, women would want to warm their bed if only there weren't so many rules!! Now, if we could stop thinking of the receptive partner as submissive and anal sex as dirty or painful, some real progress could be made.<br /><br />One final point to the men reading this: One undeniable attraction of gay porn to women is so simple as to be obvious: these men take care of themselves! Their skin is not that of an alligator, they make a point of eating healthy and staying fit, but most of all, they are NOT a fat man saying to a woman, already overwhelmed by societal pressure and aging, that they are fat and need to be in the shape they were in college to be attractive.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-20560872487500210122013-08-02T15:29:14.894-04:002013-08-02T15:29:14.894-04:00I am a guy I would love it if I didn't have to...I am a guy <b>I would love it if I didn't have to be anonymous but humanity is still not accepting enough</b> that is looking for where he fits in between bisexual and the idea of binary gender and pansexual and the idea of continuous gender. I am fortunate that my girlfriend is accepting of my sexuality although I am no more allowed to have a boyfriend than I would be to have another girlfriend; monogamy is great but, at times, difficult. <br /><br />Firstly, I would like to address a particular point regarding Freudian theory: Freud's theories are non scientific as they are not falsifiable. Theories provide a framework within which, what Kuhn termed ordinary science occurs and thus, must be falsifiable, internally consistent, and externally consistent with the rest of the body of scientific knowledge. Freud's theories served a very important purpose: they opened a door to the investigation of the psychological dimension as separate from the biophysical investigation of the brain. The ongoing use of these theories as a kind of whipping boy by all manner of postmodernists merely serves to highlight weak arguments; it is a straw man argument if there ever was one. Penis envy is a particularly absurd and pointless one: it is only the social environment in which men of the Michigan legislature can not say vagina or vulva whilst wasting tax payer dollars debating misogynistic and outdated ideas restricting reproductive health choices that ideas such as penis envy arise. <br /><br />The works of Harry Stack Sullivan may well be far more useful as he himself was gay and lived at a time when intolerance was more than rampant and out of control, it was the expected behavior. Once, -and maybe still now- men lived half lives: unable to cry or show any strong emotion -other than anger- they were deprived of the rich palette of emotions that women experience; emotions that enrich their lives and that of those around them. One potential appeal of gay porn is that these men are able to express a full range of emotions. A full range, I might add, that I feel most women find desirable in the abstract but abhorrent in the fact. Bisexual men do not have an easier time finding women that love them. On the contrary, it is often a "deal breaker".<br /><br />I would now like to address another particular point concerning male sexuality. Hitherto, the male body has been seen as less attractive and rougher in the manner that a lump of coal is to a diamond. A large percentage of women use terms such as junk when referring to the male genitalia and treat it -given current fashion- as something to be hidden. Further, do women feel that it makes a man feel great when you perform oral sex on us and immediately race for the toilet or the nearest tissue? I enjoy performing oral sex on both sorts of organs and I can safely say that it is not the flavor of ejaculate that is the problem. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-71745461218962546212013-08-02T13:20:09.060-04:002013-08-02T13:20:09.060-04:00This is a false assumption that these men are &quo...This is a false assumption that these men are "straight" to begin with. If we're using the word bi-sexual, okay. But a man looking at gay (including tranny)is not heterosexual. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-79307578810389108932013-07-26T15:30:50.438-04:002013-07-26T15:30:50.438-04:00Are you embarrassed beyond belief every time you a...Are you embarrassed beyond belief every time you are seen without any clothes on?<br /><a href="http://codstube.com/" rel="nofollow">straight sex</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08334575628705146696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8375344096409031979.post-77416916626251097892013-03-15T06:28:24.489-04:002013-03-15T06:28:24.489-04:00thank you dude, this was a nice insight.you make m...thank you dude, this was a nice insight.you make me think and laugh! winning combo.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14309544679645424673noreply@blogger.com