Can porn make you engage in sex you don't want?

There is a great talk on TED which describes the problems men are having who watch too much porn. Close to the end Wilson addresses how porn can sway you away from your sexual orientation toward sexual behaviors with whatever sex you are not attracted to.

Again this facilitates the dialogue I am trying to have here on this blog which is that straight men can have sex with other men. It is about behavior, not sexual orientation.

This is true for gay men as well as we see everyday in which they are having sex with women even though their orientation is homosexual.

The movie Shame http://www.amazon.com/Shame-Blu-ray-DVD-Digital-Copy/dp/B006OB3K56 showed also how a sexually addicted man escalated his sexual acting out behaviors to the point where he had sex with men even though he was heterosexual. It was accessibility, not sexual orientation.

The Great Porn Experiment: Gary Wilson at TEDxGlasgow

I found my husband looking at gay porn does that mean he is gay?

What would you do if you found gay porn on your husband's computer? What assumptions would you make? Would it be safe to say he's gay?

In this video, author, relationship coach and YourTango Expert Dr. Joe Kort explains what it means — and what it doesn't mean — when you learn that your husband has spent time searching the web for homosexually explicit content. How Often Do Healthy Couples Have Sex? [VIDEO]

"When men have sex with other men," says Joe, "sometimes it's because they're gay, and sometimes it's because they're straight and they're curious."

Want to learn more? Check out the video above.

Why We Care About John Travolta's Sexuality

I just wrote an article on Huffington Post about men who have sex with men as it might related to what is being debated about John Travolta.

In the past few weeks there have been numerous speculations that John Travolta might have been sexual with men and therefore might be gay.

Our culture is obsessed with men who have sex with men and quickly label them as bisexual or gay. The gay community becomes angry toward those who are closeting themselves, wanting these public people to come out and show that being gay is OK.

Women call my office frantically after discovering their husbands and boyfriends looking at gay porn or meeting men on Craigslist and understandably worry their husbands may be gay or bisexual. These women care for obvious reasons, because if their man is gay, then the marriage is over in their minds.

To read more click here http://www.huffingtonpost.com/joe-kort-phd/john-travolta-sexuality_b_1579081.html?ref=gay-voices http://www.huffingtonpost.com/joe-kort-phd/john-travolta-sexuality_b_1579081.html?ref=gay-voices

What Cynthia Nixon Is Teaching Us About Sexuality

When actress Cynthia Nixon declared that for her, being gay is a choice, she received much negative backlash from the gay and lesbian community. I don't see her revelation as negative as much as I appreciate her giving us an opportunity to discuss a very complex concept of sexuality. Most people -- gay and straight alike -- prefer to believe that you are either gay or straight. Bisexuals are seen as "bi now, gay later." And those who are "heteroflexible" -- heterosexual but enjoying gay sex everyone once in a while -- are almost always seen as latent homosexuals, especially if they are males. The truth is that it is not this simple at all.

 Read my article at Huffington Post

To read more click here

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/joe-kort-phd/cynthia-nixon-sexuality_b_1248824.html?ref=gay-voices

"I would say the majority meaning 99.9% of them have not experienced a change in their orientation" Alan Chamber, President of Exodus Intl for ex-gays.

Alan Chambers, president of the ex-gay organization Exodus, came out and said the following quote at a Gay Christian Networking group: The majority of people that I have met, and I would say the majority meaning 99.9% of them have not experienced a change in their orientation or have gotten to a place where they could say that they could never be tempted or are not tempted in some way or experience some level of same-sex attraction. I think there is a gender issue there, there are some women who have challenged me and said that my orientation or my attractions have changed completely. Those have been few and far between. The vast majority of people that I know will experience some level of same-sex attraction. To read more click here http://wthrockmorton.com/2012/01/09/alan-chambers-99-9-have-not-experienced-a-change-in-their-orientation/

Why are gay men threatened by straight men having sex with men?

There was a post at a website titled, "Queerty" http://www.queerty.com/read-this-if-you-wanna-learn-how-to-seduce-straight-guys-20111019/ which was called, "Read This If You Wanna Learn How To Seduce Straight Guys". Queerty.com saw an article I wrote on Psychology Today about straight men having sex with other men. What baffles me are the comments of gay men who are naive and ignorant to understanding that men can have sex with men and not be bisexual or gay. I would be interested in responses here from some of you as to what your thoughts are by the comments on that site. It is clear from reading this blog and the www.straightguise.com website that I do believe and know that bisexuality exists. I acknowledge that and talk about that when it is true for some men. One comment was that, "if a man is having sex with both genders than he is bisexual". This implies that bisexuality is simply based on a sexual act which would then have to mean that being gay and straight are only based on sexual acts. I always say that if I never have sex with another man again for the rest of my life I will still be gay and I know that to be true. Gay men who are hetererosexually married and having sex with their wives are not bisexual after they come out. They were always gay. Here is the website page and the comments http://www.queerty.com/read-this-if-you-wanna-learn-how-to-seduce-straight-guys-20111019/

"Born This Way" Blog: Alex

"Born This Way" Blog: Alex: "Alex, age 4 Ames, IA (1976) That's me in the green footie pajamas, kissing another boy. I've always loved this photo, and I refer to it as '..."

Very sweet to see images of same gendered kids being sweet with one another.