Friday, January 18, 2013

Research on "mostly straight men"

Here is a great article written byRitch Savin-Williams and Kenneth Cohen discussing their research about why straight men would be interested in sex with other men.

Mostly Straight Men Who Have Sex With Men

National surveys in the U.S. and Canada show that 3 to 4 percent of male teenagers, when given the choice to select a term that best describes their sexual feelings, desires, and behaviors, opt not for heterosexual, bisexual, or gay, but for “mostly” or “predominantly” heterosexual.

An even higher percentage of post-high-school young-adult men in the U.S. and in a handful of other countries (including New Zealand and Norway) make the same choice. There are now more young men who feel they are “mostly straight” than who say they are bisexual or gay.

To the uninitiated, “mostly straight” is a paradox. These young men fracture the heterosexual agenda—or do we call it a lifestyle? If a guy is not exclusively into girls, he can’t be totally straight. Aren’t you supposed to pick a side?
If a guy is not straight, not bisexual, and not gay—and yet still falls in love and gets an erection—what the hell is he?

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1 comment:

riversong6295 said...

I have recently found a video of my partner giving fellatio to a dildo. He claims he is not gay and that it was just a sexual curiosity. I have found your articles to be helpful in understanding his behavior, but am having trouble moving forward in the relationship. Why couldn't he tell me? The deception is difficult to bear. I wonder how I can ever be enough to satisfy him now. Do you have any advice on how to move forward when a female partner discovers this about her mate? Not much about how this affects relationships, especially from the female point of view.