Friday, February 11, 2011

Why Does THAT Arouse me?

I am thinking of doing a teleseminar to help people understand and relieve themselves of the shame of their sexual fantasies. I would love to hear thoughts of what you would like me to focus on that would interest you in knowing about what your sexual fantasies say about you!

All sexual fantasies are healthy. There are some that should never be acted on because they might be putting the person who has them or someone else at risk. I don’t believe there’s any pathology in our sexual fantasies or desires. Instead, I see them as a positive story about ourselves that’s trying to be told. Learning what the nonsexual meanings of our fantasies are can be very helpful.
For example, you might have a fantasy of being dominated and spanked. There’s nothing wrong with that fantasy and there’s nothing wrong with doing it. But what I want to help someone do is explore why they have that fantasy from a positive perspective and not necessarily pathologize it. Not in a negative way but in a positive way. What does that mean about you?”
Dr. Kort learned the benefit of helping people explore the origins of their fantasies through years of work with men who are addicted to sex and from those who have been sexually abused. By "cracking the erotic code" and learning the narrative of what the sexual desires mean can help you feel better about your sexuality and learn more about yourself.

If you would like to hear the last teleclass I did on this topic click here

New from the Kort Report February 2011

I am excited to be going to London, England to offer my workshops for gay and lesbian couples and gay and bisexual males who are partnered or single. 

I will also be offering a couple's workshop for all couples here in Michigan in March. 

I am writing for a popular magazine for gay men in the UK called, "Attitude", in which I answer questions from gay men about their lives. 

Read the newsletter for all this and more by clicking here 

Monday, February 7, 2011

Can you call yourself bisexual if you have never had sex with a member of your own gender?

What's the connection between sexual orientation and sexual activity? Can you call yourself X if you haven't Y'd?

What are the defining features of sexual orientation? That is, in this case, what makes a bi-sexual a bi-sexual?

Who gets to call themselves what? Or in your words, when is it proper to call yourself something?

Can You Call Yourself X if You've Never Y'd?
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Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Same-Sex Affairs: Men More Forgiving than Women, Study Says - Health Blog - CBS News

(CBS) No one likes being cheated on, but guys are more willing to forgive and forget when their girlfriend cheats with a woman than with another man.
In fact, guys are more than twice as likely to continue to date a woman who strays with a woman than one who has a heterosexual affair, according to a new study.
What about women who've been cheated on? They show the opposite pattern, saying they're more likely to continue dating a man who has had a heterosexual affair than one who has had a homosexual affair.

Same-Sex Affairs: Men More Forgiving than Women, Study Says - Health Blog - CBS News
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