Sunday, October 31, 2010

Sexually Abused Males

So many readers of Straight Guise are sexual abuse survivors. Sexual abuse is the number one reason many straight men compulsively have sex with other men.

Given this I want to direct readers to a Q&A I do for

Also coming this Friday, November 5 is a two-day discussion on Oprah on males who have been sexually abused

Oprah flew out 200 men who were sexually abused and for the first time has an all male audience talking about their childhood sexual abuse experiences.

New Study show that 17% of heterosexual adults admit being attracted to someone of the same gender!

Adam & Eve (, America’s most trusted source for adult products, isn’t afraid to ask the tough questions when it comes to its “Great American Sex Survey.” This month’s results reveal that 17% of heterosexual adults admit being attracted to someone of the same gender!

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Friday, October 29, 2010

Response emails to gay for pay

This is an email I received after my "Gay for Pay" article was written. I
am reprinting with permission from the sender:

I believe that there is
such a thing as gay for pay. Many gay for pay performers are mediocre at best
and some of them are downright awful. Any time a man needs to see straight porn
while performing gay sex you should know that he is in bad shape. For example Bam is a porn star
who does not gay and straight porn. More often than not, his gay performances
are not particularly well done. On the other hand, when he performs straight sex,
he does not have a single problem in maintaining an erection sometimes that he
must work on to perform gay sex. Another example is Castro aka Supreme. He is
one of the worst performers around. When he performs with black or Latino
performers, he makes having sex look like a very difficult job to do. He has the
hardest time trying to position his sex partner. The only time when he seems
remotely interested in performing gay sex is when he started to perform with
white gay performers. I think that his performances with them is based on the
fact that he is paid more on a white website than black studios and he can push
his white performers around with great ease because they like being treated that
way particularly when performing with a black star with a big dick. The extreme
lack of intimacy and the absence of touching while performing sex is another
indicator to me. Although I recognize that some gay men will not kiss or touch
their partners, gay for pay performers not only have that problem but they also
will not perform certain other sexual behaviors that they find distasteful like
sucking another man’ penis. This situation is common among many black
homosexuals. One more example watch Bjorn’s movie about making a porn movie and
look at the some of the performers and the expressions on their faces. You see
nothing but disgust and contempt. I will stop rambling. Take care

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Is there such thing as ‘gay for pay?’

My comment is basically about sexuality – specifically in the gay porn industry.

Many “gay” porn performers insist they are completely straight and only
“do it for the money.’” I guess my question is: Can you be completely straight
while having gay sex?

My opinion is that you have to be aroused during
sex with someone – which would mean these ’straight’ performers are turned on by
their male partner – which would mean they’re not completely straight. Right?

However, I’ve talked to industry insiders who aggressively maintain that
many of their performers are indeed completely straight and are NOT aroused
while performing a gay sex scene and that they are “just doing their job.” This
confuses me greatly.

I would say that sexuality is fluid and not black
& white, but the topic of “gay for pay” in the porn industry is a hot topic
and it fascinates me that these performers contend and assert their
heterosexuality. What are your opinions?

The answer to the question is absolutely yes! The way to understand this is from the perspective that what excites these guys is not the man but sex. For many men, the act of sex is arousing and male or female is not as much a factor as the actual sexual arousal. For example, we understand that men in prison engage in sex with other men and are not gay. Their sexual orientation stays the same, but the desire for sexual release and orgasm is the drive – not the sexual connection to the man.

There is a difference between sexual orientation, sexual fantasies, and sexual behavior. They don’t often line up the way we think they should. Many gay men enjoy sex with women – especially younger gay men and heterosexually-married gay men. These men report they enjoy the sexual act and are deeply satisfied because of their connection to the woman.

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American Sex Survey proves that people can be heteroflexible

A recent American Sex Survey funded by the maker of Trojan condoms helps explain that more men have had sexual contact with other men and legitimizes my clinical findings The survey was of 5,865 people ranging in age from 14 to 94.

Also, researchers discovered quite a few middle-aged American men are on the down low: While just 7% of adult woman and 8% of adult men identified themselves as gay, lesbian or bisexual, some 15% of men aged 50 to 59 said they had received oral sex from another man.

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Here is a clip of a local news station in Detroit, MI in which I was interviewed about the survey