Thursday, September 27, 2012

I found my husband looking at gay porn does that mean he is gay?

What would you do if you found gay porn on your husband's computer? What assumptions would you make? Would it be safe to say he's gay?
In this video, author, relationship coach and YourTango Expert Dr. Joe Kort explains what it means — and what it doesn't mean — when you learn that your husband has spent time searching the web for homosexually explicit content. How Often Do Healthy Couples Have Sex? [VIDEO]
"When men have sex with other men," says Joe, "sometimes it's because they're gay, and sometimes it's because they're straight and they're curious."
Want to learn more? Check out the video above.

Saturday, June 9, 2012

Why We Care About John Travolta's Sexuality

I just wrote an article on Huffington Post about men who have sex with men as it might related to what is being debated about John Travolta.

In the past few weeks there have been numerous speculations that John Travolta might have been sexual with men and therefore might be gay.
Our culture is obsessed with men who have sex with men and quickly label them as bisexual or gay. The gay community becomes angry toward those who are closeting themselves, wanting these public people to come out and show that being gay is OK.
Women call my office frantically after discovering their husbands and boyfriends looking at gay porn or meeting men on Craigslist and understandably worry their husbands may be gay or bisexual. These women care for obvious reasons, because if their man is gay, then the marriage is over in their minds.
To read more click here

Friday, February 3, 2012

What Cynthia Nixon Is Teaching Us About Sexuality

When actress Cynthia Nixon declared that for her, being gay is a choice, she received much negative backlash from the gay and lesbian community. I don't see her revelation as negative as much as I appreciate her giving us an opportunity to discuss a very complex concept of sexuality. Most people -- gay and straight alike -- prefer to believe that you are either gay or straight. Bisexuals are seen as "bi now, gay later." And those who are "heteroflexible" -- heterosexual but enjoying gay sex everyone once in a while -- are almost always seen as latent homosexuals, especially if they are males. The truth is that it is not this simple at all.

 Read my article at Huffington Post

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Monday, January 9, 2012

"I would say the majority meaning 99.9% of them have not experienced a change in their orientation" Alan Chamber, President of Exodus Intl for ex-gays.

Alan Chambers, president of the ex-gay organization Exodus, came out and said the following quote at a Gay Christian Networking group: The majority of people that I have met, and I would say the majority meaning 99.9% of them have not experienced a change in their orientation or have gotten to a place where they could say that they could never be tempted or are not tempted in some way or experience some level of same-sex attraction. I think there is a gender issue there, there are some women who have challenged me and said that my orientation or my attractions have changed completely. Those have been few and far between. The vast majority of people that I know will experience some level of same-sex attraction. To read more click here