This question haunts the many men who enter my office for therapy. The belief is that receiving anal sex equates to homosexuality and bisexuality and even worse to some--femininity!
My quest in this blog is to state repeatedly that an individual can enjoy a sexual act and fantasy unrelated to one's sexual orientation.
So the answer to the question in the title is "No!"
I see many men who enjoy having their wives use a strap-on to perform anal sex with them. They are still men who are straight and enjoy erotic anal play.
The problem is that men feel shame asking their wives to engage in this behavior. Other men do ask but their wives are opposed to it, are offended by being asked, and/or worry that their husbands are gay.
So these straight guise seek out men to act out their fantasy of being anally penetrated. They desire the sexual act, not the man.
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Anal sex for males who enjoy receiving is the most troubling concepts for straight men and women because it is so closely tied to homosexuality. My hope is that this posting along with the rest of straightguise.com can assist couples to talk openly and honestly about their sexual desires without labeling and negatively judging each other.
3 comments:
This article was helpful. I am married and been with my husband for 12 yrs. This subject between us came up recently. I feel better about it since reading your article. I really didn't know what to think at first but didn't want to make him feel bad about himself either. I feel a lot more confident knowing this isn't unheard of.
Just an addition to my previous comment concering anal hygeine. I also recommend bathing in epsom's salts. Of course, there are other methods of anal hygeine, including books.
Enjoy!
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