Thursday, May 1, 2008

Straight Men Who Have Sex with Men (SMSM)




I submitted an article which was accepted at www.GLBTQ.com on straight men who have sex with men.


Men Who Have Sex with Men (MSM) is a term derived from the growing body of
literature showing that not all men who have sex with men are gay. Adopted by
sex researchers and AIDS organizations to classify men who have sexual relations
with other men but whose sexual identity is neither gay nor bisexual, the
acronym recognizes a reality that complicates our tendency to divide the world
into heterosexuals and homosexuals, with a small number of bisexuals, who are
sometimes thought of as simply gay men or lesbians who have not come to terms
with their homosexuality. That is, the reality of sexual activity is more
complicated than the traditional binary (or even trinary) system of nomenclature
can accommodate.

This article focuses on straight men who have sexual
relations with men (SMSM). They are not gay nor are they bisexual, though their
behavior might be seen as bisexual or homosexual.


To read on click here

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Joe,
I am sorry to hear your view point on this because the gay community no longer has any credibility in my eyes. For so many years all I read was judgement of anyone who did not accept that they were gay if they had any level of same-sex attraction. They would not even acknowledge that there were bisexual people. Now more are coming out and claiming mixed attraction and taking the focus off of the gay way of life and now you want to dictate that these men have been straight all along and they are not really gay. I am sorry you cannot have it both ways, this is the ultimate hypocracy.

Joe Kort said...

You make a lot of sense from your point of view I see what you mean. As I understand the gay movement, there was so much against anyone defining themselves as gay that it went to the other extreme. That is unfortunate. Now there seems to be more balance and room for everyone gay, straight, bisexual and the most people who are in between.

Anonymous said...

Yes there are straight men whom have sex with men ... so what ? It does not make them gay

I have had some attraction to women but I am predominatly heterosexual (I went through a "lesbian" phase)

Plus http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demographics_of_sexual_orientation

Basically 0.5 and 1's (on a "Kinsey" scale though I hate Kinsey for reasons not mentioned here)really outnumber the gay community itself

- Single same sex experience/attraction (I'm part of it (:) ... this is the HIGHEST and most common form of same sex contact

- Multiple same sex attractions/experiences (they MAY be predominatly straight but I think that they are more likely to be bissexual)

And then last but not least LGBT community ^_^ (exclusively)

Let me get this straight...I am NOT bi okay!

Gosh yes I have had attraction to women but I am predominatly heterosexual ...don't confuse us with bissexuals! We are not

Sometimes I get the feeling that gay males want straight men(kinda creepy...) with the whole "SMSM" 0_0

Or that they are trying to pin point that straight men are not so "straight" after all when these dudes are just predominatly heterosexual

Gosh gay males and their habits of just screaming "Gay!" when maybe the dude was just curious, tried it, gone it done and it doesn't matter to him anymore

Also so you know I'm a girl and a lot of girls HATE gay male porn (:

Maybe American women like it but foreign women sure DON'T (:

Why? Well I used to like it but then I noticed that well let me see...

There weren't any WOMEN in the movies!

Yeah it was hot...for a while

But then I got angry and bored so I returned to heterosexual porn and maybe a couple of bissexual ones too ^_^

I LOVE me some MMF threesome though

Double penetration is HOT HOT HOT

Though anal sex hurts sometimes -_-

Let me tell you from the point of view of a woman that in the end most women (myself included) will have their interests in gay male porn waned greatly

I mean where's the spark and the thing when you only see two dudes having affection?

What a woman wants the MOST is to be wanted and cared for

In Gay male porn this doesn't happen and therefore BAM!

You gay men think that you got straight women at the drop of a hat (:

In the end straight women will get bored with the lack of return and want a man to kiss, nimble and make love to a WOMAN

To me
Not him
Not that male

To me
A female ^_^

Just wanted for you to know the truth (:

Anonymous said...

Sorry I meant http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demographics_ ----(link this to the other part)----of_sexual_orientation

(:

Gay men think that straight women love gay male porn

Oh PLEASE!!!!!!!!
Yeah in the start (and maybe for a couple of years) but then it HITS you like a truck that they don't want YOU (they just want each other!)

You feel undesirable
I feel undesirable
Women feel undesirable

Gay male porn... yuck...ewww

Heterosexual porn is hot
Bissexual is not bad (:
Not bad at all...

Straight women like bissexual men
NOT gay men

Gay men are GREAT friends and all but when it comes to intimacy 0_0

Straight women love heterosexual men
Straight women like bissexual men

I dislike all porn now(and haven't watched much... straightorgayor whichever) but I just wanted to give you some info ^_^

Bye bye honey (:
Have a FABULOUS life

Anonymous said...

" Joe Kort said...
You make a lot of sense from your point of view I see what you mean. As I understand the gay movement, there was so much against anyone defining themselves as gay that it went to the other extreme. That is unfortunate. Now there seems to be more balance and room for everyone gay, straight, bisexual and the most people who are in between "

I couldn't help myself (:
Just one last post ^_^

Joe Kort the gay community has no credibility in my eyes either

They can't (sorry) don't get IT that BISSEXUALS and ESPECIALLY PREDOMINANT heterosexuals exist

That bissexual women exist

That bissexual men exist

That predominatly straight men (highest same sex contact recorded and still on record) exist

That predominantly straight women exist (highest recorded on women... I'm part of this statistic)

I am tired of gay people trying to convince me that I or she or him are gay or at best bissexual when I am clearly not

I know what I like
What I love in sexual contact

I love men
I adore their bodies

Their smell
Their taste

Their aura
Their spirit

I know whom I am

And if you try to convince me that I am bissexual (or gay) then you're wrong... dead wrong

The same thing goes for trying to convince straight men that they are gay or bissexual just because of having gay sex

I have met many straight men whom had at least 2 to 10 same sex contact with different people and in the end they prefer women and don't have same sex contact anymore

Look at what they tried to fool these poor straight men http://men.style.com/details/blogs/details/2008/08/-----(link to)------what-if-you-onl.html#comments

I don't hate gay individuals...

But I am sick and tired of gay people calling me gay or bi and especially straight men whom had gay sex as gay or bi

Maybe they are gay...
Maybe they are straight...

Only they know whom they are
And I know whom I am too

Have a nice day ^_^
Cute blog (:

Wish you the best in life

Anonymous said...

Opps I meant ANONYMOUS ^_^
Not Joe Kort

Sorry Joe
Bye

^_^